MAX ON LIFE

105. My husband says I am too critical of him, and he's right. I have a terrible habit of criticizing him for everything. I hate having this judgmental attitude, and I know it's not good for our marriage. I need help to change my perspective.

Five times in Proverbs, Solomon addressed a quarrelsome wife and twice likens her to a constant dripping and the other times says it's better for a man to live on the roof or in the desert than in the house with her. (Prov 19:12; 21:9, 19; 25:24; 27:15).

Every time a wife nags, drip.

Every time she criticizes, drip.

Every time she blames, drip.

A critical nature can wear on a guy.

You are saying you don't trust your husband to change the situation. He feels it. A man wants to be respected. When he's respected, he leads. When he's challenged, he fights.

You are also saying you don't trust God to change your husband. You forget about praying to God and go straight to criticizing your husband. It's faster, and it gets the point across more quickly. Is that the best path? No.

A man needs to ripen from the inside before he is fruitful. Let God be the critical one. Allow the Holy Spirit to remind your husband of what he needs to do and how he needs to do it.

Do it before your house is flooded and everyone drowns!

By: Max Lucado