What does premarital sex tell you about the person? Do you learn anything about his character? About her patience? Does a night of passion answer these questions: "Will he love my kids? Will she tell the truth? Will we love God better together than apart?"
Hardly. Premarital sex reveals only one thing: this person likes to sleep around. And it tells your partner the same thing about you.
Courtship sex doesn't enhance a relationship; it stunts its growth. It shifts the attention from the study of the soul to fascination with the body. Necessary friendship creation is neglected. Essential communication tools go underdeveloped. Most of all, spiritual intimacy takes a backseat to physical intimacy. The purpose of courting is to know each other's souls, not bodies.
God calls for presexual marriage. "So a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one body" (Gen 2:24). The leaving is the announcement that a man and woman make to the community. Whether this announcement occurs in a cathedral ceremony or a backyard wedding, it serves the same purpose. It declares a covenant between two people. It removes two individuals from the dating market and enrolls them in the university of matrimony.
Leaving, uniting, then sex. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the fruit of love.... the baby carriage.
By: Max Lucado
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